Wait a Minute...What’s Happening?

I’m starting to feel a little bit like I’m in the twilight zone…DeeDoDeeDoDeeDoDeeDo...

At first, I thought, this will all blow over in a few days...But now I’m getting a clearer picture of what’s happening...and WHY!...

Yes, the obvious thing is there’s a virus out there that’s created a pandemic...I’m not talking about the obvious, what’s happening on the surface. Because if you’re clever, you realize everything happens for a reason. It’s not random. 

And in order to see things from a clearer perspective, we must pan out because otherwise we only see what’s happening in a tiny radius of scope. Soooo...as I pan out...I see things...

What do you see? you ask... Lemme look... Well, I see the reason we’re going through all this commotion is because we’re getting ready as a collective to go through a big SHIFT... an AWAKENING... 

And in order to realize the shift... we must come in touch with our fears... so that we can heal them... 

The thing is that we are so good and clever about avoiding our fears that the Universe created a situation that forces us to STOP and BE STILL for a while... and the heat’s getting turned up... it’s like a refiner’s fire... burning away the chaff and leaving behind the gold!

So, what can we do about it? 

I’ll tell you what I AM doing, which is working for me... First, I AM healing any fears that arise. (I’ve gotten pretty good at that!)... Then I just go with the flow right straight into JOY! 

I figure I can approach this from one of two ways... I could panic and worry and get my liver in a quiver and make my heart fart... or I could treat this like a giant ADVENTURE, wondering what new experience awaits at every turn! 

It’s a no brainer to me... I choose adventure over panic... LOVE over fear... PEACE over worry. 

And I remind myself that this moment is PERFECT. Everything I need and want is here now. Everything that’s here now is perfect... even any fear, disappointment, loneliness, sadness, grief... all of it is perfect and entirely beautiful... in fact, all of it deserves my love and attention. 

It feels wonderful to be able to HOLD all of me in my loving embrace. This is how we heal ourselves. This is how we shift into a new way of being. This is how we awaken to the LOVE that we are. 

All is well, my friends. 

Things are not what they seem. 

Everything is in process as it’s meant to be. 

Let it go. Let it flow. 

Ahhh! Relax! Breathe!

Why is Life So Freakin Hard Sometimes?

Dadgumit! It’s just not fair... feeling so lonely, misunderstood and unwanted. Sometimes it feels like it’s us against the world... and we’re getting our butt kicked! 

Lord knows we try!... to get it right... to please others and do what makes them happy. But still, conflict arises... something happens that stirs up all our anxiety, our anger, our shame, our guilt, our resentment. Or maybe nothing happens... nothing at all... same boring, lackluster mundane existence where we feel so ALONE and SAD! WTF?! Is this what life’s about? 

The frustrating thing is that no matter how much we do to prevent, control, shake off all this crap from entering our lives, it shows up! And it wears us out! Why does life have to be so hard?!

Well, I have good news...It doesn’t have to be hard... but the thing is... the way most people go about taking care of all these situations and feelings is the exact opposite of what actually works!... That’s right... The reason why life is so hard is because we approach it from a very LIMITED way of being... using our human logic, resources and abilities... 

And what is the alternative? you ask... The alternative is to operate from our LIMITLESS nature where life becomes graceful, effortless and a whole lot of fun. 

Well, how do we do that?! you ask, a bit exasperated... It’s actually a PROCESS, not an instant fix... however, it’s not necessarily hard to do nor does it take very long, but nonetheless a process... And that’s exactly what I’ve done for myself and what I’m teaching my clients. 

Tell you what... I’ll give you a sneak peek at the process. It involves creating SPACE for healing. And SPACE is an acronym that stands for STILLNESS, PRESENCE, AUTHENTICITY, CONNECTION and EMPATHY. The process includes very focused, powerful guidance of practices, inspiration and perspective. It’s amazing! And it not only brings you to healing, it shows you how to SUSTAIN your healing. 

Once you go through this process, life is no longer hard. In fact, it’s graceful, effortless and a whole lot of fun... Does this sound like something you’re ready to experience?... because you’ve tried so hard on your own, and you’re worn out and still anxious and sad... and you love yourself enough to take care of yourself and bring yourself to healing... and there’s nothing that will keep you from making your healing your #1 priority... because if that’s YOU... OMG! You are on the threshold of something so beautiful that you will hardly recognize yourself when you’re done. 

Don’t put it off... because NOW is the time to love yourself... Send me a PM HERE to book a call so we can get you started on your process of creating your new life. 

It’s time for you to be free, to live fully, to enjoy your life, to love and be loved like you’ve never known before. ❤️

Want to Feel Safe?

Who doesn’t?! Truth is many people don’t feel safe at all... for large segments of their lives. It’s like living in survival mode, constantly running from the monsters and demons of anxiety chasing us or completely shut down by depression. How can we find safety?

Let’s look at what’s happening before we talk about how to shift it... when our basic needs of survival... food, safe place to live, finances, physical safety, emotional safety... are threatened, we are living in survival mode. All of our blood rushes to our extremities as an attempt for us to flee, our cortisol levels go up, our heart races, our minds race... This affects our ability to rest and sleep, which is vital to our healing. Our bodies get worn out from trying to just survive! 

This kind of living is not sustainable and makes for a lot of misery. The thing is that most people endure the most horrible conditions for so long that they get used to it! Yikes! So, here’s the thing... in order to shift out of survival mode and into healing, a person has to DECIDE that they’re sick and tired of being sick and tired. I mean completely DONE with that! Otherwise, they can’t be helped... 

And here’s the other thing... not only do they need to be so OVER living in such an anxious depressed state, their DESIRE to be healed must be GREATER than their fears of not being able to be healed, in order for them to move forward. Let’s frame that a different way... a person must LOVE themselves enough to take care of the FEARFUL part of them they are healing. 

Now that we understand that, let’s talk about ways to feel SAFER so we can choose to heal ourselves, rather than continue to fight ourselves and others while in survival mode. What we need at this point is to create BALANCE and to GROUND ourselves since we are unstable.

Here are two SIMPLE things we can do to create grounding, balance and safety:

1) Sit still in a chair for 5 minutes each day... Do you think that’s silly and won’t work?... Well, I can see where you would think so, but I assure you it will. Here’s why... What we’re working with is an overstimulated nervous system... It’s like a tightly wound angry ball of energy that needs time to unwind and settle down. Just do it. Try to just relax and breathe. Take some long deep breaths with long deep exhales. Don’t worry about your mind racing and obsessing and replaying the same sad story over and over again. Just sit still and watch it all like you’re watching a movie. 

2) Take a walk...or dance a bit... anything to get your feet touching the ground. This is how you GROUND yourself. It doesn’t have to be a very long walk, although that’s nice if you can. But even a short walk helps, especially if you’re very upset. Once again, remember to breathe. Your breath can bring you to safety. 

Once you feel SAFE enough, you can start advancing towards healing yourself. The most skillful way to heal yourself, especially if you’re really in a bad way, is to call in an expert who’s already done what you want to do and knows how to teach others. And that’s exactly what I’m doing for my clients!

So if you’re done with being in survival mode and you’re ready to create safety, support and a freaking new life for yourself that’s joyful and full of love, then send me a PM HERE so we can book a call to see if we’re a match to work together. And I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients. 

It’s time for you to start enjoying your life! I love you so much! ❤️

Are You Limiting What’s Possible in Your Relationships?

Relationships are tricky things! 

Just when we think we have it all figured out... 

Things change! And we try so hard to get it right... 

Whew! It can be exhausting!

Let’s talk about why we have trouble getting what we want out of our relationships.

Why is it so hard to find and establish a meaningful and lasting relationship?

Relationships with others can only go as far as our relationship with ourselves. 

Let’s get more specific... 

The reason we don’t experience what we want in terms of relationships is because…

There’s something BLOCKING what’s possible.

What is that?! you ask.

It’s our pesky limiting beliefs!

Let’s look a little closer because the thing about limiting beliefs is that we don’t realize they are there!

Let’s take the case of simply not finding anyone that interests us or more likely that’s interested in us.

If we examine ourselves really carefully, hiding underneath a bunch of protective layers are a bunch of limiting beliefs. 

Here’s an example of what those look like:

“I’m not that attractive. That’s why I can’t find anyone.”

“If they really knew my deepest thoughts, they wouldn’t like me... hell, I’m not so sure I like me!”

“If I fall for this person, they’re gonna break my heart, just like so and so did.”

“I hate being rejected, so I will just reject them before they reject me!”

“There’s no one who is at my level, and I’m not willing to settle.”

“It’s just easier being alone without all that drama and trauma.”

“I find women/men to be troublesome and difficult to be with.”

Lordy! I could go on for days! 

The funny thing is that we keep projecting our ideas out there where all those potential people are that we want to be in relationship with. 

And we don’t realize we attract the energy we vibrate... even if we don’t want to!

Energy doesn’t lie! 

If we have these subconscious limiting beliefs, (and we all do to some extent), they will block us from experiencing what’s possible.

How do we get rid of the limiting beliefs? you ask.

Well, the first step is to be AWARE of what they are. 

The next step is to DISSOLVE them, and when we do…

We EXPAND into greater possibilities, so we can bring our truest desires into reality.

That’s sounds simple, and it actually is fairly simple…

But it’s a PROCESS to learn how to be aware of and dissolve our limiting beliefs. 

And the way we generally try to do that is usually the exact opposite of the way that works! 

You know... all that efforting... 

Trying to just think positive... 

Focusing on what you want while ignoring and distracting yourself from your negative thoughts... 

Arguing with your negative beliefs about yourself... 

Pushing them far away from yourself and denying they exist... 

You get the idea!

The way to dissolve the limiting beliefs is to love and accept them as they arise. 

Truth is, even though we might UNDERSTAND that being present with love and acceptance of our fears and limiting beliefs is the way to heal…

Being able to actually DO that is very hard, if you’ve never done it before... 

Which you haven’t because you’re reading this about how to do it!

Anyway, The most skillful way to go about healing yourself is to call in an expert…

One that’s already done what you want to do and knows how to teach others to do the same. 

That’s exactly what I’m doing for my clients!

So if you’re ready to dissolve your limiting beliefs and to attract the most amazing relationship into your life...

I’m offering you a free call to start creating the love life you’ve always wanted. 

Click on the link below to book your FREE  CALL:

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It’s time for you to start enjoying your life with someone who truly loves you. 

I love you so much! ❤️

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