Got BOUNDARIES?

What’s this?... a map quest?... Well, no... it’s a quest to determine if we have boundaries or none at all. But before I continue, let’s define boundaries... according to Webster, a boundary is “a line that marks the limits of an area.” In this case, the area is a person, you or me or someone else. 

Sometimes we get confused about boundaries because we forget where we end and another person starts. This would be when there are no boundaries because we are all meshed together with the other. When and why does this happen? It primarily happens when we want to be accepted, liked, loved by the other, and in our zeal for wanting that acceptance or approval, we open so much that we completely forget about what we as individuals want and need because we’re so busy trying to get the other’s approval. 

When this happens, we lose our sense of self, we allow other people to impose themselves onto our space, and we wind up feeling out of control of our lives. Then we start feeling resentful, irritated, angry and defensive, while not having the awareness or skill to speak up about what’s happening inside of us. 

Some people experience the other extreme where they have so many boundaries that they’re walled up like Fort Knox. They’ve been so hurt that they put up impenetrable walls that are extremely difficult to get close to the person. What they’re doing is trying to protect themselves from getting hurt again. And the strategy works at first, but fails miserably when the person realizes the very thing they want...that is to be loved and accepted...they’ve made impossible because of their extreme boundaries that come from their fears. So they remain alone. 

Hmmm... What’s a person to do? What we need here is BALANCE... to be able to have healthy boundaries so that we can know what we need and want as individuals AND to give ourselves space to not be constantly infringed upon by others, WHILE being able to both navigate and articulate our needs. That, my friends, requires a STRATEGY... one that comes from experience and skill... and that’s exactly what I’m teaching my clients!

If you’re struggling with boundaries and you’ve lost your sense of self or you’re overcome with fear from trying to defend yourself from attack, then send me a PM HERE to book a call so we can see about bringing balance and health into your life. 

You matter. You are important. You deserve to feel happy and be loved. ❤️

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Isn’t That Funny?

Have you ever told a joke or funny story to someone, and they just looked at you blankly with no expression? It has the effect of cold water being poured over our heads... it’s baffling to me when that happens! 

I’ve been thinking about that... And I notice there is a correlation between people that laugh and smile easily and people who are very serious and find it difficult to laugh. The people who laugh easily tend to be open and free like me and accept the same energy from me. The people who find it difficult to laugh and are very serious tend to be RESISTANT to things in life. 

Let’s talk a little bit about RESISTANCE and its effects... when a person is resistant, they stop the flow of energy and close. Two things happen when this closing or contracting occurs: 1)The person can no longer RECEIVE energy, even if it’s healing energy, because they are in a closed state. 2) The blockage of energy begins to fester and create problems. 

It’s unbelievable how much resistance happens as part of our natural human conditioning on a daily basis! There’s nothing inherently wrong with resistance. It’s just that it causes a lot of problems. But the upside of resistance is that it also shows us what wants our love and attention! (Now we’re cooking with hot grease!)

When we’re able to identify where we have resistance to WHAT IS, we can learn how to offer it acceptance, which is how we heal ourselves. Now that awareness is all fine and dandy, however it’s not quite enough to help us get out of being resistant to so many things. It’s actually a PROCESS that requires a strategy, which is exactly what I’m doing for my clients! 

So if you’re ready to start laughing and enjoying your life instead of feeling heavy and serious from resisting so many things, send me a PM HERE so we can book a call to see if we’re a match to work together, and I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients. Let’s get you laughing and enjoying this wonderful life. Look forward to connecting with you! ❤️

Is Your Fear Keeping You Trapped?

Are you feeling like you’re busting out of your cage, and it hurts because you’re all jammed up against the bars from expanding so much? Can somebody please tell me how to get out of this frickin cage? you ask. Well, let’s look at what’s happening first.

Our freedom to expand is directly proportional to our ability to dissolve limiting beliefs that come from fear.

What are limiting beliefs? you ask. I’ll show you some:

“I don’t have enough...”

“I’m not enough...”

“I’m going to fail, epically!”

“Nobody wants me.”

“I’m too loud, bossy, shy, ugly, lazy, dumb...blah blah blah...”

I’ve noticed the more one practices anything, the easier it becomes and the more skillful we get. Well, I’ve been getting really good at dissolving my limiting beliefs...So I keep e x p a n d i n g and freeing myself! It’s amazing!

Learning how to dissolve my limiting beliefs was a process...one that I AM now able to teach my clients so they can expand and soar. If you find yourself trapped in a cage of limiting beliefs that come from fear, anxiety and sadness, and you’re ready to learn how to dissolve those limiting beliefs, then send me a PM to book a call to see if we’re a match to work together. I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients.

And if you’re struggling with anxiety and sadness after a loss, join my FB group where I give tips on creating a new life of peace, love and joy. Click HERE to join.

You were made to fly. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. Your new life awaits you! ❤️

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Do Spirituality and Money Go Together?

I have a question...Who’s running our world?...The 1% who have the majority of financial resources in our world!... I have another question... How’s that working out for us?...Not too good! Why? Because the people who know how to create safety, harmony, love, joy, so that our world shifts out of destruction and violence and into abundance, health and peace...the spiritual leaders...have been kept very small. 

How have we been kept small? you ask...by our limiting beliefs that spirituality should be free or cheap. Notice what you feel when you think about that idea that spirituality and money don’t mix. What about the inverse? Spiritual leaders flow in abundance and show their followers to do the same by being paid well for their services. 

What I’ve learned is that when we can get in touch with our feelings of RESISTANCE, that’s where our limiting beliefs lie. And that’s exactly when we can learn how to dissolve those limiting beliefs, heal ourselves and expand into a higher version of ourselves. Because we as a collective have bought into the limiting belief that spirituality and money don’t mix, we have been trapped in the cage of scarcity. Scarcity is the notion that we don’t have enough, and it comes from our idea that we are not enough, which is exactly what wants to be healed. 

Scarcity is an illusion of this human experience of feeling separate from what we need and want. If we hope to change this world, we must dissolve that illusion and walk into our power as Divine limitless beings. 

Let’s talk a little bit more about money. Money is energy like anything else. It’s not good nor bad. The idea that it’s evil comes from our judgment, not from its inherent value. If we judge something to be evil, then that same part of us that judges pushes it away. Now can you see why people who have that idea are feeling scarcity and don’t have money? They’ve been pushing it away from themselves! 

Let’s delve a little deeper into this idea of money as energy. We use money as an exchange for other things that are also energy. When we purchase something, we engage in an energy exchange, money for whatever we purchase. When we dissolve the limiting belief that spirituality and money don’t mix, we create a way to move past our scarcity and expand into our abundance. In the old paradigm of spirituality being free or cheap, the energy exchange is completely imbalanced...The giver may have a sincere desire to help, but by not charging for their services, they DEVALUE what they give because we don’t value what we don’t pay for, and we don’t prioritize it. Therefore, no matter how good the offering is, it is very difficult to make a significant impact since the energy exchange is not significant. Meanwhile, the recipient remains powerless because they haven’t prioritized the offering, and they may feel guilty about that. But more importantly, when the underlying message is that the receiver cannot pay for the services, they remain powerless in scarcity and at the mercy of the giver. 

How can we bring ourselves back into balance? you ask... We must create a value cycle that is based on a balanced energy exchange. This energy exchange is no different from when you buy a car or groceries. If you want to buy a car, you know that you either have to pay for it outright or get a loan for it because they’re not going to give it to you for free because you can’t pay for it. Spirituality is no different. In fact, if we require a significant transformation or healing, then the energy exchange must be significant, otherwise the transformation or healing will not occur. 

The same is true on a global level... If we expect to significantly impact our world and heal it, we must be able to have significant resources. This goes back to my original question. Now what would it look like if all of the beautiful spiritual leaders of our world made the decisions for our world? I’ll tell you what it would look like... We would create a new earth that is quite beautiful and harmonious and looks very different from what it looks like today. And that’s exactly why I AM here now. 

If you’re ready for a significant transformation in your life after having struggled with anxiety and sadness after a loss, send me a PM HERE to book a call to see about creating your new life. This is how we create a new earth...by loving ourselves enough to invest in our healing. 

You are important. You matter. The world needs you to show up for yourself and reclaim your power. ❤️