Are You Giving Away Your Stuff?

I want to have a frank discussion with all of you amazing generous spiritual leaders. I know you. You want to make a difference in our world. And you bust yourselves doing it. You give and give and give of yourselves because you know your purpose is to change the world.

You want to do so much and reach as many people as possible that you give away your stuff for FREE! Books, teachings, TIME working with people, resources, the list is endless. You do this thinking, If it’s free, then more people will enjoy it and change their lives. What you don’t realize is the EXACT OPPOSITE of your intention is occurring! What?!!!

People value what they pay for. And they don’t value what they don’t pay for because if it’s free, then it’s not that important. Imagine that fancy upscale steakhouse (Vegans, please pardon my example, but I couldn’t think of a vegan analogy). What if they stood on the corner handing out juicy 16 oz. prime rib steaks, completely free? Well you would think they are out of their minds, or that there was a big catch.

And the truth is, if they did that, they would quickly go out of business because all of a sudden, it’s no longer valuable to go to the steakhouse. Why would you go and buy a $50 steak on your special anniversary if you could just get one for free on the corner? You would just go to another fancy place on your special anniversary and pay well for your fancy meal.

Now the steakhouse may decide instead to give tiny samples of their steak to entice you to enjoy that fancy meal. That’s an amazing strategy to get you to eat there, especially if you’re really hungry because you would pay the extra money if you were really really hungry.

Do you see what I mean? I know what I AM talking about because I was completely out of balance in terms of giving, and it’s taking me a while to bring myself into alignment so that I can really make a big impact. If you really are serious about changing people’s lives, you need to stop giving away all your time and stuff for free, recognize your VALUE and MONETIZE your offerings in a way that’s reflective of what you are worth, which is way HIGHER than what you originally are thinking. We’re talking about changing the world here people. How valuable is that?!

Stop trying to do everything in your pretty creative mind! WHAT?! You HAVE TO START WITH ONE THING! I give you permission to stop pouting and throwing that temper tantrum about what I just said. Here’s why: We creators have a cajillion ideas...of course, we’re Divine Limitless beings! But we cannot be effective on the earthly HUMAN plane unless we GROUND our ideas. And we must start ONE AT A TIME. You must give all of your attention to one thing at a time; from there you are building momentum to move on to the next thing and so on. Otherwise you DILUTE your energy. (It’s kind of like having quintuplets instead of one child. You need a ton more help to take care of five newborns at one time. It’s possible, but not the best way to go about making an impact.)

Now let’s investigate this offering that you have, which you are going to use to build your spiritual business and really change the world. This offering that you are exchanging with those souls that you already agreed to connect with at this point in their journey, is an INVESTMENT. Your peeps are INVESTING in themselves, in their healing, in their abundance, in finding their purpose. And they are happy to do so. They will invest in working with you at the same level that you invest in yourself! This is not the time to be stingy and have a scarcity mindset. This is the time to think BIG! We have a world to change, and it’s not gonna change with some wishy-washy weak offering. You have to know that what you bring is POWERFUL. You cannot make apologies for your offering. We need you to show up in a big way.

So stop giving away your stuff for free, start seeing your value and monetizing your offering in a big way, one at a time, and then just sit back and watch how you create a big ole splash of LOVE all over our world!

Are You Chasing or Manifesting?

Manifesting is a big deal these days. More and more people are beginning to understand the law of attraction and employing it as a way to get what they want. It’s great! But there may be pitfalls along the way that hinder the work. 

 First, it’s possible to manifest anything, but do you really want to manifest that thing, that relationship, that new job? YES, you say. But are you sure? Because if it’s coming from the energy of I don’t have, so I want, then you may find that once you manifest it, you are not really happy about it or even regret it. Why is that?

 We attract the energy we vibrate. If you attract something from a scarcity or lack mindset, you get more scarcity and lack. If you really want to manifest from a place of ABUNDANCE, you must attract from your Highest Self. 

 The first part of manifesting from your Highest Self is getting clear on your motivation and attracting for the Greater Good. Does this thing, relationship, job, success, advance the good of ALL? If you say YES, then let’s look at manifesting from the perspective of I ALREADY HAVE, and I AM just bringing it into this 3D reality. 

 From this new and expanded place, we are no longer chasing what we are manifesting because we know it’s HERE NOW. We can think of it as hiding until we or others are ready for it to appear. Meanwhile we experience it as HERE NOW by envisioning and feeling it. We give gratitude for it BEFORE it shows up in this physical reality. 

 Here’s a pitfall to avoid: in the process of thanking the Universe for what we are manifesting, don’t think of it as something out there that isn’t here now. Instead think of it as grateful for what’s ALREADY here, much like you would thank someone after they prepared a nice meal for you. 

 Those who are most powerful at manifesting operate from the pure LIGHT, pure LOVE, pure CONSCIOUSNESS that WE ARE because they understand that we are DIVINE LIMITLESS beings. Nothing is impossible to us, and anything is possible. They no longer identify as a human trying to figure this 3D reality out. They identify as Source in human bodies navigating this human experience by tending to our human selves and aligning it with our Divine Selves. 

 That’s REAL POWER! And it’s not hard or frustrating. In fact, flowing as a Divine Limitless being is GRACEFUL, EFFORTLESS and a whole lot of FUN!

An Invitation to the Light

Lately I have been exploring concepts in terms of light and darkness. My LIGHT, which is who I AM, has the honor and privilege to illuminate the darkness that shows up in my experience. As I encounter my darkness, AKA my Sadness, my Anxiety, my Fear, my Anger, I imagine them as little versions of me that have been locked away in the darkness.

As my darkness arises, I smile and invite her into the light. “Come on, girlfriend! This is the way to freedom. If you stay there in the darkness, you’ll find yourself go around and around and just exhaust yourself. It’s more fun here in the LIGHT. I invite you to walk into the light.”

It’s amazing to be this free! My darkness is transformed by my LIGHT. When I walk into a space, I transform everyone and everything by my LIGHT. This is who WE ARE. I invite you into the LIGHT.

Why is Healing So Hard?

Healing in and of itself is not difficult. What makes it hard is our RESISTANCE to it that arises from our subconscious LIMITING BELIEFS. Imagine a space where there is a bright light, which by the way is who we are. And within that space are also dark caverns that are hidden and closed off by giant rocks. Even though the light is so bright that it can dispel all darkness, since there are giant rocks covering the openings to the dark caverns, the light cannot enter there.

The only way the light can enter to illuminate the darkness is if the RESISTANCE, AKA rocks are removed. Once the resistance is removed, the light is so bright, it reaches in and lights up the darkness. This is the process of HEALING, bringing our LIGHT into the DARK places of our lives.

Our healing work becomes seamless when we can identify our resistance, AKA subconscious limiting beliefs, that having been forming since we were small children. Here are some common limiting beliefs:

I’m not a good person, therefore I don’t deserve to be loved.

I don’t know what I’m supposed to do, so I must be stupid.

If I don’t do everything possible to please others, they won’t want me, and I will be alone.

Even though others seem to be enjoying their lives and living purposefully, it’s not really possible for me.

I have never had much, and anyways having stuff is not very spiritual, so it’s okay that I can barely even pay for rent and food.

I’m not a lovable person.

I have had this pain for 20 years, and I will suffer from it for the rest of my life.

Great news, people! You can remove the rocks from the dark caverns and HEAL YOURSELF! Yes, it’s a process, but it doesn’t have to be hard. We start right HERE NOW. And we keep showing up in this moment, tending to ourselves.

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Please remember: You are IMPORTANT. There’s only one of YOU, and the world is grateful you exist. I love you so much!