It’s So Hard To Watch People Struggle

I have been observing myself again. And I notice my propensity to feel sadness or disappointment as certain people go through their struggles. Part of me wishes I could move them along and get them to a place where they are all better. Then I realize that part of me is the part of me that is really only concerned with how I feel, and I don't want to have to feel what the other feels.

It's hard for me to watch other people struggle. It reminds me of when my kids were learning how to tie their shoes, and after what seemed like an eternity of them trying, I just wanted to grab the shoelaces and do it for them. That would put me out of my misery, and I wouldn't have to watch them struggle anymore. Then I realize their struggle is why they are here. It is their path of evolution. And when I try to "help" by doing it for them or hurry them along so they can be done with that lesson and be happy, I shortcut their growth. (This is the plight of the co-dependent and enabler.)

So as I step back and observe myself with my selfish agenda to feel better and not have to see others struggle, I also go back to the realization of why we are here: to evolve and grow. Seeing this brings me back to the wisdom of allowing myself and others to be who they are without trying to force solutions. It's like baking a cake. It's important not to take it out of the oven until it's done.

Today I choose to support those people in my life who are struggling by sending lots of love and grace and peace. And I am grateful for these lessons we are learning together as we grow and return to Source from whence we came.

Tired of Feeling Guilty and Obligated?

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I feel GUILTY because so and so expects ... from me, and I can’t or don’t want to do that”? Or how about, “I am doing this because I feel OBLIGATED to do it”?

Let’s take a moment to unravel this. Why do we feel obligated to do anything? Is it because we said we would do it, because at the time we may have been willing to do it, and we don’t want the other to be upset with us if we don’t? Is it because we feel it’s important to fulfill others expectations of us. What happens if we don’t fulfill those expectations? Do we feel guilty and like we’re a horrible person? Well yes, that’s it.

So it comes around again to guilt and expectations. We don’t want to feel guilty. And we don’t want to feel like a horrible person. So we do what’s expected of us so that we won’t feel guilty and like a horrible person, or we don’t do what’s expected of us and feel guilty and like a horrible person!

Isn’t that something! We are playing all these tricks to avoid feeling guilty and unworthy, but we can’t get around it. Maybe we add RESENTMENT to our feelings of guilt and unworthiness because we don’t like it that other people expect things from us. And we don’t like it when other people rule our lives by their expectations. We feel trapped and bound by others’ needs and wants.

What if instead of avoiding guilt, unworthiness and resentment, we turned around and offered it LOVE and ACCEPTANCE? What if we as the LIGHT stopped running away from guilt, unworthiness and resentment and decided to shine our Light into the Darkness of these parts of us that are arising simply because they are asking to be healed?

Well, I will tell you what will happen: first, we will heal the parts of us that feel guilty, unworthy and resentful. Then because we’ve taken back our power, we will begin to make decisions based on what serves us best in this moment, instead of trying to fulfill other people’s expectations for our lives. Then as we grow in our ability to listen to what’s true for us, we come out of this codependent behavior of constantly trying to please other people so we won’t feel guilty or unworthy. And we feel completely FREE! Yay!

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And if you’re done with feeling GUILTY, OBLIGATED, UNWORTHY and RESENTFUL, then contact me by PM on FB messenger or HERE through my website, and we can have a conversation about how I can get you the same results I AM getting my clients.

Have You Ever Noticed Yourself Having A Hard Time Understanding Spiritual Stuff?

The issue is not necessarily about your capacity to understand or take in information and insight. It’s often tied to RESISTANCE that you have about whatever or whoever it is you’re listening to. What’s happening is that your subconscious mind limits your capacity because of its limiting beliefs that have accumulated over the course of your life in an effort to protect your ego.

The way to shift that lack of understanding and ability to take in helpful information and insight is to bring LIGHT into the Darkness of that part of you that resists and is trying to push away whatever you are listening to. The awareness of that part of you that is resisting is simply arising at this time because it’s ready to be healed. Your soul is ready to EXPAND more into who you are. By lovingly bringing your LIGHT into that dark place, you will harmonize that part of yourself back into LIGHT and be able to take in more insight and wisdom to continue the soul expansion process. ❤️

Is the Darkness More Powerful than the Light?

To many it SEEMS the Darkness is more powerful than the light here on the earth. This is merely a PERCEPTION because we as humans are experiencing the Darkness, sometimes overwhelmingly, in the form of feeling SEPARATE from what we need and want, from LOVE, from the LIGHT. Since we are experiencing this Darkness so intensely and since it is so prevalent, we BELIEVE it is all powerful and that nothing can overcome it. Our very FEAR of the Darkness has kept us SEPARATE and blind to TRUTH: that though we are experiencing the Darkness as humans, we actually ARE the LIGHT!

Spirit does not FORCE itself upon us. Spirit is gentle and kind. Spirit INVITES us to the LIGHT, to LOVE, to FREEDOM, to PEACE, to JOY. At some point, we may become weary of the domineering bullying of the Darkness that has convinced us of its power. At some point we may be READY to ACCEPT the invitation to come into the LIGHT. When we do, we realize WE ARE the LIGHT. The Darkness dissolves into the LIGHT that WE ARE!

When this happens, we begin to uncover all of our LIGHT that has been blocked out by our FEAR, our ANGER, our SADNESS, our ANXIETY, our JEALOUSY. Fear was just trying to keep us safe from the Darkness, and it didn’t realize it was keeping us IN the darkness and SEPARATE from the LIGHT.

When we walk into the LIGHT that we are, all Darkness is transformed into LIGHT. Nothing is more powerful than the LIGHT because it is LOVE itself, and we are that LOVE connected together as ONE. ❤️