Tired of Feeling Guilty and Obligated?

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I feel GUILTY because so and so expects ... from me, and I can’t or don’t want to do that”? Or how about, “I am doing this because I feel OBLIGATED to do it”?

Let’s take a moment to unravel this. Why do we feel obligated to do anything? Is it because we said we would do it, because at the time we may have been willing to do it, and we don’t want the other to be upset with us if we don’t? Is it because we feel it’s important to fulfill others expectations of us. What happens if we don’t fulfill those expectations? Do we feel guilty and like we’re a horrible person? Well yes, that’s it.

So it comes around again to guilt and expectations. We don’t want to feel guilty. And we don’t want to feel like a horrible person. So we do what’s expected of us so that we won’t feel guilty and like a horrible person, or we don’t do what’s expected of us and feel guilty and like a horrible person!

Isn’t that something! We are playing all these tricks to avoid feeling guilty and unworthy, but we can’t get around it. Maybe we add RESENTMENT to our feelings of guilt and unworthiness because we don’t like it that other people expect things from us. And we don’t like it when other people rule our lives by their expectations. We feel trapped and bound by others’ needs and wants.

What if instead of avoiding guilt, unworthiness and resentment, we turned around and offered it LOVE and ACCEPTANCE? What if we as the LIGHT stopped running away from guilt, unworthiness and resentment and decided to shine our Light into the Darkness of these parts of us that are arising simply because they are asking to be healed?

Well, I will tell you what will happen: first, we will heal the parts of us that feel guilty, unworthy and resentful. Then because we’ve taken back our power, we will begin to make decisions based on what serves us best in this moment, instead of trying to fulfill other people’s expectations for our lives. Then as we grow in our ability to listen to what’s true for us, we come out of this codependent behavior of constantly trying to please other people so we won’t feel guilty or unworthy. And we feel completely FREE! Yay!

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And if you’re done with feeling GUILTY, OBLIGATED, UNWORTHY and RESENTFUL, then contact me by PM on FB messenger or HERE through my website, and we can have a conversation about how I can get you the same results I AM getting my clients.

Have You Ever Noticed Yourself Having A Hard Time Understanding Spiritual Stuff?

The issue is not necessarily about your capacity to understand or take in information and insight. It’s often tied to RESISTANCE that you have about whatever or whoever it is you’re listening to. What’s happening is that your subconscious mind limits your capacity because of its limiting beliefs that have accumulated over the course of your life in an effort to protect your ego.

The way to shift that lack of understanding and ability to take in helpful information and insight is to bring LIGHT into the Darkness of that part of you that resists and is trying to push away whatever you are listening to. The awareness of that part of you that is resisting is simply arising at this time because it’s ready to be healed. Your soul is ready to EXPAND more into who you are. By lovingly bringing your LIGHT into that dark place, you will harmonize that part of yourself back into LIGHT and be able to take in more insight and wisdom to continue the soul expansion process. ❤️

Is the Darkness More Powerful than the Light?

To many it SEEMS the Darkness is more powerful than the light here on the earth. This is merely a PERCEPTION because we as humans are experiencing the Darkness, sometimes overwhelmingly, in the form of feeling SEPARATE from what we need and want, from LOVE, from the LIGHT. Since we are experiencing this Darkness so intensely and since it is so prevalent, we BELIEVE it is all powerful and that nothing can overcome it. Our very FEAR of the Darkness has kept us SEPARATE and blind to TRUTH: that though we are experiencing the Darkness as humans, we actually ARE the LIGHT!

Spirit does not FORCE itself upon us. Spirit is gentle and kind. Spirit INVITES us to the LIGHT, to LOVE, to FREEDOM, to PEACE, to JOY. At some point, we may become weary of the domineering bullying of the Darkness that has convinced us of its power. At some point we may be READY to ACCEPT the invitation to come into the LIGHT. When we do, we realize WE ARE the LIGHT. The Darkness dissolves into the LIGHT that WE ARE!

When this happens, we begin to uncover all of our LIGHT that has been blocked out by our FEAR, our ANGER, our SADNESS, our ANXIETY, our JEALOUSY. Fear was just trying to keep us safe from the Darkness, and it didn’t realize it was keeping us IN the darkness and SEPARATE from the LIGHT.

When we walk into the LIGHT that we are, all Darkness is transformed into LIGHT. Nothing is more powerful than the LIGHT because it is LOVE itself, and we are that LOVE connected together as ONE. ❤️

Three Steps to Winning in Life:

It ain’t easy being human! And it’s super easy to get tired, embarrassed, afraid, angry. WTF? Why is that so?!

Well let’s back up and think about yourself before you came into that body. You were pure LIGHT, pure LOVE, ecstatic JOY, PEACE beyond understanding. And you AGREED to come into that human body and story and to feel so separate from what you need and want. Why would you do a ridiculous thing like that?!

Ah! Because you knew that what you experienced as a human feeling separate from what you need and want is exactly what you were going to HEAL and reunite back to who you are as LOVE itself. This is your GIFT to humanity because when you heal yourself, you heal EVERYONE because we are ONE.

Meanwhile, when you’re going through this human life feeling so separate from what you need and want, you FORGET who you really are. That’s because your memory was wiped before you came into your body! Lordy! This whole experience here is a PROCESS of REMEMBERING who we are BEFORE we came into these human bodies and stories.

The first step to winning in life is to: REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE, in this moment...and this one...and this one. We do that by being PRESENT, which requires PRACTICES to REWIRE our brains from thinking we are just human, when we are actually the UNIVERSE in a HUMAN BODY!

The next step for winning in life is to ASK FOR HELP, from others who are willing and able to help us. Be willing to invest your time, money and energy in yourself when you ask for help so that you are not giving away your power by expecting someone else to fix you or constantly helping you out of the goodness of their heart. When you take responsibility for your life by learning how to heal YOURSELF with other’s assistance, you empower yourself to win in life, instead of staying a victim. ASK for help from your SPIRIT GUIDES and ANGELS who are waiting for you to ask for their help. The entire Universe is conspiring to help you succeed.

And finally, the third step to winning in life is to: TRUST the PROCESS. When you look at a baby, you wouldn’t expect a baby to be able to drive a car, learn Algebra or cook you dinner. There’s nothing WRONG with the baby. That baby is just not at the stage of development where they could do those things. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG with you! You are just going through your powerful transformation PROCESS and bringing your gifts of healing to our world. You are PERFECT exactly as you are! Just trust the process. Allow it to unfold as you grow, evolve and are ready for the next stage of development.

I love you so much. You totally got this! Just remember who you are and NOTHING is IMPOSSIBLE for you!