Want to Feel Safe?

Who doesn’t?! Truth is many people don’t feel safe at all... for large segments of their lives. It’s like living in survival mode, constantly running from the monsters and demons of anxiety chasing us or completely shut down by depression. How can we find safety?

Let’s look at what’s happening before we talk about how to shift it... when our basic needs of survival... food, safe place to live, finances, physical safety, emotional safety... are threatened, we are living in survival mode. All of our blood rushes to our extremities as an attempt for us to flee, our cortisol levels go up, our heart races, our minds race... This affects our ability to rest and sleep, which is vital to our healing. Our bodies get worn out from trying to just survive! 

This kind of living is not sustainable and makes for a lot of misery. The thing is that most people endure the most horrible conditions for so long that they get used to it! Yikes! So, here’s the thing... in order to shift out of survival mode and into healing, a person has to DECIDE that they’re sick and tired of being sick and tired. I mean completely DONE with that! Otherwise, they can’t be helped... 

And here’s the other thing... not only do they need to be so OVER living in such an anxious depressed state, their DESIRE to be healed must be GREATER than their fears of not being able to be healed, in order for them to move forward. Let’s frame that a different way... a person must LOVE themselves enough to take care of the FEARFUL part of them they are healing. 

Now that we understand that, let’s talk about ways to feel SAFER so we can choose to heal ourselves, rather than continue to fight ourselves and others while in survival mode. What we need at this point is to create BALANCE and to GROUND ourselves since we are unstable.

Here are two SIMPLE things we can do to create grounding, balance and safety:

1) Sit still in a chair for 5 minutes each day... Do you think that’s silly and won’t work?... Well, I can see where you would think so, but I assure you it will. Here’s why... What we’re working with is an overstimulated nervous system... It’s like a tightly wound angry ball of energy that needs time to unwind and settle down. Just do it. Try to just relax and breathe. Take some long deep breaths with long deep exhales. Don’t worry about your mind racing and obsessing and replaying the same sad story over and over again. Just sit still and watch it all like you’re watching a movie. 

2) Take a walk...or dance a bit... anything to get your feet touching the ground. This is how you GROUND yourself. It doesn’t have to be a very long walk, although that’s nice if you can. But even a short walk helps, especially if you’re very upset. Once again, remember to breathe. Your breath can bring you to safety. 

Once you feel SAFE enough, you can start advancing towards healing yourself. The most skillful way to heal yourself, especially if you’re really in a bad way, is to call in an expert who’s already done what you want to do and knows how to teach others. And that’s exactly what I’m doing for my clients!

So if you’re done with being in survival mode and you’re ready to create safety, support and a freaking new life for yourself that’s joyful and full of love, then send me a PM HERE so we can book a call to see if we’re a match to work together. And I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients. 

It’s time for you to start enjoying your life! I love you so much! ❤️

Are You Limiting What’s Possible in Your Relationships?

Relationships are tricky things! 

Just when we think we have it all figured out... 

Things change! And we try so hard to get it right... 

Whew! It can be exhausting!

Let’s talk about why we have trouble getting what we want out of our relationships.

Why is it so hard to find and establish a meaningful and lasting relationship?

Relationships with others can only go as far as our relationship with ourselves. 

Let’s get more specific... 

The reason we don’t experience what we want in terms of relationships is because…

There’s something BLOCKING what’s possible.

What is that?! you ask.

It’s our pesky limiting beliefs!

Let’s look a little closer because the thing about limiting beliefs is that we don’t realize they are there!

Let’s take the case of simply not finding anyone that interests us or more likely that’s interested in us.

If we examine ourselves really carefully, hiding underneath a bunch of protective layers are a bunch of limiting beliefs. 

Here’s an example of what those look like:

“I’m not that attractive. That’s why I can’t find anyone.”

“If they really knew my deepest thoughts, they wouldn’t like me... hell, I’m not so sure I like me!”

“If I fall for this person, they’re gonna break my heart, just like so and so did.”

“I hate being rejected, so I will just reject them before they reject me!”

“There’s no one who is at my level, and I’m not willing to settle.”

“It’s just easier being alone without all that drama and trauma.”

“I find women/men to be troublesome and difficult to be with.”

Lordy! I could go on for days! 

The funny thing is that we keep projecting our ideas out there where all those potential people are that we want to be in relationship with. 

And we don’t realize we attract the energy we vibrate... even if we don’t want to!

Energy doesn’t lie! 

If we have these subconscious limiting beliefs, (and we all do to some extent), they will block us from experiencing what’s possible.

How do we get rid of the limiting beliefs? you ask.

Well, the first step is to be AWARE of what they are. 

The next step is to DISSOLVE them, and when we do…

We EXPAND into greater possibilities, so we can bring our truest desires into reality.

That’s sounds simple, and it actually is fairly simple…

But it’s a PROCESS to learn how to be aware of and dissolve our limiting beliefs. 

And the way we generally try to do that is usually the exact opposite of the way that works! 

You know... all that efforting... 

Trying to just think positive... 

Focusing on what you want while ignoring and distracting yourself from your negative thoughts... 

Arguing with your negative beliefs about yourself... 

Pushing them far away from yourself and denying they exist... 

You get the idea!

The way to dissolve the limiting beliefs is to love and accept them as they arise. 

Truth is, even though we might UNDERSTAND that being present with love and acceptance of our fears and limiting beliefs is the way to heal…

Being able to actually DO that is very hard, if you’ve never done it before... 

Which you haven’t because you’re reading this about how to do it!

Anyway, The most skillful way to go about healing yourself is to call in an expert…

One that’s already done what you want to do and knows how to teach others to do the same. 

That’s exactly what I’m doing for my clients!

So if you’re ready to dissolve your limiting beliefs and to attract the most amazing relationship into your life...

I’m offering you a free call to start creating the love life you’ve always wanted. 

Click on the link below to book your FREE  CALL:

❤️️ CallWith Denise.com ❤️ 

It’s time for you to start enjoying your life with someone who truly loves you. 

I love you so much! ❤️

❤️️ CallWith Denise.com ❤️

Are You Living or Dying, Creating or Destroying or Both?

Creative destruction... oxymoron?... not at all... We humans have this thing that we hold onto ideas that we really like, and we shun anything we don’t like. We love life and creation and love. We detest death and destruction and fear. 

What’s wrong with that? you ask... nothing... nothing at all... but it’s the source of our suffering... What?! Come on! You’re such a party pooper! you say... perhaps, but hear me out...

Suppose you had a pet kitty that you loved so much. It followed you everywhere, and you did everything together. But suppose one day your kitty died...😔... I’m so sorry... that really hurts... Suppose you were so upset that you refused to bury your kitty. Instead, you carried your dead kitty around with you everywhere you went, just like old times... peeeuuuu... that’s so weird, you say... I would never do that! you insist. 

That’s exactly what we humans do... all the time... We hold onto things that are dead and gone... maybe not in the physical sense because we have more sense than that! But we absolutely hold onto our IDEAS of what we THOUGHT IT SHOULD BE... my friends... that’s dead and gone... It cannot serve you anymore. 

And until you let go of what you thought it should look like, you die along with your ideas... a slow painful death... inside... But when you let go of those dead ideas, you make space for something new that is alive and will better serve you at this time. 

Life and death, creation and destruction, love and fear, are two sides of the same “coin”... you can’t have one without the other. They are NATURAL cycles. 

If you look at nature, the trees and plants and animals don’t fight these cycles. They just flow with them. Have you ever considered the lifespan of a butterfly? It’s not very long. But the butterfly doesn’t worry about that. When the butterfly dies, it just decomposes, becomes a mushroom or nutrient for another plant to come up, and that’s life. 

Well, even though you see my point, it still doesn’t change the fact that we humans are programmed to resist death, destruction and fear. But mostly, we are resisting what we thought it should be.

In order to change that and to flow more freely in life and reclaim our power that we gave away to all the PEOPLE and THINGS that we held onto in our process of not letting go of what we thought it should be, we must SHIFT our viewpoint away from our LIMITED human way of seeing things and move into our LIMITLESS way of being. 

That requires us to REWIRE our brains. It’s a process that requires a strategy... preferably one that actually works because all those mind games we play to try to force ourselves to work so hard at forgetting and ignoring our crap doesn’t work for long. 

The most skillful way to heal ourselves and rewire our brains is to call in an expert who’s done it for themselves and has taught others to do it. And that’s exactly what my clients have done and are seeing amazing results in their lives! 

My friends, you don’t have to keep suffering and trying to figure it all out by yourself. And if you’re tired of trying to do that, and you’re ready to start taking back your power and loving your life, then send me a PM HERE so we can book a call to see if we are match to work together. And I can get you the same amazing results I’m getting my clients. 

Let’s create something beautiful for you. You deserve it! ❤️

Is Life Random?

It certainly SEEMS that way, but let’s take a look at this... In order to understand the answer to this question, it’s important to pan back out of our limited human viewpoint because it’s hard to see the picture when you’re in the frame.

So we’ll start with a basic understanding of why we even came into these human bodies and stories... We each came here as Source into human bodies in order to evolve our UNIQUE aspect of humanity. Whatever we experience is what we came to heal, so we must experience it first in order to heal it. When we heal ourselves, we heal all of humanity because we are ONE. Therefore our healing is a GIFT to everyone... Yes... all that crap you’ve been through, there’s actually a reason and purpose for it. 

Next, in order to see the bigger picture, we must understand that our souls know what we need in order to evolve our aspect of the collective. Our souls are creating each of our realities 100%. That may sound like a very masochistic assertion because some of us have been through a lot of very difficult and traumatic experiences, but I assure you it is all done in the name of the LOVE that we are. Those people who experience the most trauma, have the possibility of bringing powerful gifts to our world. There’s nothing wrong with any of our journeys. They are all part of a bigger plan. 

Now let’s delve a little deeper... We attract the energy we vibrate. What does that mean? you ask... It means if you are afraid of something, it’s highly likely at some point you will experience something that puts you in touch with that fear. That may sound like it sucks, but understand that the end goal is for you to face that fear and heal it.

By the way, energy doesn’t lie.  just because you say you’re not afraid of something, doesn’t mean that that is not so. You’re soul knows what it’s doing. And so, to answer the original question... Is life random?... The answer is a resounding NO!

So what’s the best way we can make use of this information?... We can begin to skillfully create our reality by training ourselves to use every experience, especially every trigger to ask ourselves these two questions:

What is my soul trying to teach me right now?

And what in me wants my love and attention right now?

I have to admit to be able to do that skillfully requires a process... one that I happen to be an expert at! So, if you’re done with life kicking you around and feeling so beat down, and you’re ready start enjoying your life, then send me a PM HERE to book call so we can see if we’re a match to work together. 

You will never regret investing in yourself. It’s time for you to shine!