What’s Wrong? Oh…Nothing

Nothing at all. What do you want?...I don’t know…lots of things, I guess…It is our DESIRE that directs our human experience, our unique sense of sensuality, sexuality. We follow what we want because we feel separate from what we want. There’s nothing wrong with our desires, even when they lead us to a path of suffering. It is that path of suffering that we came to experience in order to heal it as part of our contribution to human evolution. 

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When we approach desires as wrong, that’s not coming from our Highest selves. It’s coming from our human selves that feel separate from what we need and want, separate from our Divinity. Our roles here as Source in human bodies is to evolve human consciousness. In order to do that, we must be fully human while being fully Divine. The awakening process is when we open to the understanding of who we are as One. This process is not a one-time thing, though it may be marked by and begin with a one-time event. The special markers of our journey are like dots on a map to mark significant events in our lives. But the markers of our awakening are no more our actual awakening than the dots on the map are not the actual places we travel. 

When we look at desire and human experience as wrong, that is an indication that we are not operating from our truest and Highest nature, which knows that everything, everyone, every time, every place is One, and we are part of that One. Therefore nothing is wrong. Does that mean that we can run amok and allow ourselves to inflict pain and suffering on each other and the world? Of course not! Once again, when we think that way, that’s not coming from our Highest Self either. That comes from the part of us that is upset about the suffering in our world and feels separate from being safe and enjoying harmony. 

In order to navigate this human journey SUCCESSFULLY being fully human and fully Divine, we must learn how to operate from our truest and Highest nature and to ALIGN our human selves with this Divine nature. Our desires, which comes from our human selves that feel separate from what we want, are like our GPS system showing us aspects of humanity that we came to experience. It’s important that we follow those desires, so that we can explore various avenues of experiences and healing. Of course, sometimes following those desires leads to suffering. That’s part of the learning. If we try to avoid that part of the journey, we cannot fulfill why we came here. When we are aware and awake enough to realize that blindly following our desires leads to suffering, we can choose instead to use desire to bring us to healing and to creating for the Greater Good. 

What that looks like is being willing to explore what we truly desire from this open and free space and allowing our Divinity to bring us into that place because we are aware that we’re not separate from that which we desire. In fact, we ARE that which we desire.

If you’re tired of efforting and just trying to survive, and you’re interested in learning more about how to thrive and create a beautiful new life for yourself, then I invite you to my FB Group Creating A New Life. Click HERE to join.

 

Are You Sabotaging Yourself from Being Loved?

Well, why would I sabotage myself? you say. The thing is you wouldn’t knowingly do that!...But you may be doing it without knowing. Here’s what it looks like:Someone we care about either ignores us by not paying any attention to us, or perhaps they …

Well, why would I sabotage myself? you say. The thing is you wouldn’t knowingly do that!...But you may be doing it without knowing. Here’s what it looks like:

Someone we care about either ignores us by not paying any attention to us, or perhaps they resist us in some other way like arguing with us or not really being present when we are together. That behavior stirs up a lot for us, fear of rejection, fear of not being enough, fear of being unwanted, for starters, but we may not think of it that way. We’re just pissed, sad and disappointed. Because we are upset, we tend to react, perhaps in a way that causes conflict and more hurt feelings or not do or say anything, but simmer in resentment and unworthiness. 

Let’s step back and look at the bigger picture: All we want is to be happy, to love and be loved exactly as we are. But where are we we? Farther away from love. Why does this happen?

It happens because Fear SEPARATES us. In our reaction to the other because they haven’t given us what we want-love- we exacerbate the lack of love with our own fear. This is how we unconsciously sabotage ourselves from the very thing that we want, LOVE.  And if we’re not aware of this dynamic we’ll keep sabotaging ourselves from experiencing love. 

So, what can we do to change that? you ask. We start by understanding Love UNITES us.  Learning how to operate from Love instead of fear requires a STRATEGY, a PROCESS to shift that fear and separation into love and harmony. That’s exactly what I’m teaching my clients to do! When we’re able to respond to the other from love, we create a new dynamic that heals us and brings us all together.

So, if you’re so tired of sabotaging yourself with fear, and you’re ready to create harmony in your relationships, so you can enjoy your life, then send me a PM HERE to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

If you are struggling with ANXIETY and SADNESS from a loss in your life, join my FB Group where I offer tips on creating new lives of PEACE, LOVE and JOY. Click HERE to join.

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. ❤️

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Do You Need Help and Are You Helpable?

Somebody help me, please! you say...Well before I help you, I need to know if you’re HELPABLE. What are you talking about? Can’t you see I NEED HELP? you scream. Oh yes, that obvious...don’t mean to upset you, but let’s look at this...Suppose you ar…

Somebody help me, please! you say...Well before I help you, I need to know if you’re HELPABLE. What are you talking about? Can’t you see I NEED HELP? you scream. Oh yes, that obvious...don’t mean to upset you, but let’s look at this...

Suppose you are out in the ocean drowning and screaming help. And suppose I jump in the water and swim to you to bring you to the shore. But when I get to you, you are so panicked that you are thrashing about and grabbing onto my head, which pushes me under the water. Now, not only can I not help you, but I can’t breathe because you’re drowning me too. You are not HELPABLE in this state of pure fear. 

In your frantic attempt to live, you can’t hear me telling you to calm down, relax, stop thrashing about, stop drowning me...instead lay still, and I will carry you safely to shore. If you do that, you become HELPABLE. 

The same is true when we’re dealing with a lot of anxiety, fear, sadness, grief, anger. We tend to thrash about trying to get somebody to help us, but FEAR is making us not helpable. What does it take to be helpable for healing from anxiety and sadness, or anything, for the matter? you ask. Ahhh! Thank you for asking!

The reason I AM successful at what I do is because I only work with people who are helpable, which entails three qualities: RESOURCEFULNESS, COACHABILITY, and DECISIVENESS. I only work with people whose #1 priority is their healing. Both of us giving 110%, it’s a powerful formula for changing lives and creating amazing lives of peace, love and joy. 

When a person is reSOURCEful, that means they recognize they are full of Source. Instead of saying, “I don’t have the resources to invest in my healing,” they say, “My bank account does not currently reflect the resources for the investment in my healing, however, because I’m resourceful, I will find a way to invest in myself.” I’m curious... Would you go to a car dealer and ask them to give you a car for free because you didn’t have the money to pay for it? Well, of course you wouldn’t! Instead, what do you do? You say, “I don’t have the money in my bank account right now, but I would like to make a loan because I need that car.” Why would you treat your healing any different? Isn’t your life and health more important than a car? Of course it is! You just didn’t realize this because of your programming based on all of that fear. But now you know. Now you’re one step closer to becoming helpable.

Let’s talk a little bit about coachability... What does that mean? That means that whatever the coach, the guide, the expert that you paid to guide you and show you how to heal and create a new life, says... you do it! You listen... without grumbling, complaining and resisting. You’re like a sponge soaking in all the healing energy. With that kind of attitude, you cannot fail. 

So if you hope to be helped, the final quality is decisiveness. And what exactly does that mean? It means you don’t hesitate when you make a decision. You choose life and health for yourself in each moment. You don’t let fear keep you down. 

My friends, if you have these three qualities, you are not only helpable, you WILL SUCCEED in healing yourself and creating a beautiful new life. So I’m wondering... do you need help with all that anxiety and sadness? But more importantly, are you helpable? If that’s you, send me a PM HERE to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

If you are struggling with ANXIETY and SADNESS from a loss in your life, join my FB Group where I offer tips on creating new lives of PEACE, LOVE and JOY. Click HERE to join.

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much! 

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Have You Ever Been in a Relationship Where You Felt So Alone and Unimportant?

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All you want is someone to talk to and have meaningful conversation, but the other is so silent and disinterested in you...

It wasn’t always that way. In fact, it started out pretty steamy and exciting, and you talked about and shared everything. But somehow over time, you got into a routine...and you stopped being curious about each other because you been together so long you know the other quite well. Anyways, things just start to feel the same...same ole, same ole routine. So you get bored with each other. And maybe one of you or both of you just shuts down into your own little world. And you feel all alone, even though the other is sitting right over there watching TV...

Even if you manage to start a conversation, it doesn’t last long or go very far, and it certainly doesn’t scratch your itch for meaningful communication. In fact, just a compliment or expression of gratitude would make you feel better, but no...no words...crickets...So you start losing your confidence, and your self esteem starts going down. And you start feeling powerless over your life. Trapped in a situation that doesn’t feel like is going anywhere. It’s maddening!

Maybe you’ve tried everything you know to change that, but you’re still feeling lonely and unimportant. What you need is a strategy to learn how to create meaningful connection and to get your confidence back, and that’s exactly what I’m showing my clients how to do.

So if you’re tired of feeling lonely and unimportant, and you’re ready to learn how to create more engagement and feel more confident, then send me a PM to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

If you are struggling with ANXIETY and SADNESS from a loss in your life, join my FB Group where I offer tips on creating new lives of PEACE, LOVE and JOY. Click HERE to join.

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much!

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4 Simple Steps to Relieve Anxiety in 4 Minutes