Are You Sabotaging Yourself from Being Loved?

Well, why would I sabotage myself? you say. The thing is you wouldn’t knowingly do that!...But you may be doing it without knowing. Here’s what it looks like:

Someone we care about either ignores us by not paying any attention to us, or perhaps they resist us in some other way like arguing with us or not really being present when we are together. That behavior stirs up a lot for us, fear of rejection, fear of not being enough, fear of being unwanted, for starters, but we may not think of it that way. We’re just pissed, sad and disappointed. Because we are upset, we tend to react, perhaps in a way that causes conflict and more hurt feelings or not do or say anything, but simmer in resentment and unworthiness. 

Let’s step back and look at the bigger picture: All we want is to be happy, to love and be loved exactly as we are. But where are we we? Farther away from love. Why does this happen?

It happens because Fear SEPARATES us. In our reaction to the other because they haven’t given us what we want-love- we exacerbate the lack of love with our own fear. This is how we unconsciously sabotage ourselves from the very thing that we want, LOVE.  And if we’re not aware of this dynamic we’ll keep sabotaging ourselves from experiencing love. 

So, what can we do to change that? you ask. We start by understanding Love UNITES us.  Learning how to operate from Love instead of fear requires a STRATEGY, a PROCESS to shift that fear and separation into love and harmony. That’s exactly what I’m teaching my clients to do! When we’re able to respond to the other from love, we create a new dynamic that heals us and brings us all together.

So, if you’re so tired of sabotaging yourself with fear, and you’re ready to create harmony in your relationships, so you can enjoy your life, then send me a PM HERE to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

If you are struggling with ANXIETY and SADNESS from a loss in your life, join my FB Group where I offer tips on creating new lives of PEACE, LOVE and JOY. Click HERE to join.

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. ❤️

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Do You Need Help and Are You Helpable?

Somebody help me, please! you say...Well before I help you, I need to know if you’re HELPABLE. What are you talking about? Can’t you see I NEED HELP? you scream. Oh yes, that obvious...don’t mean to upset you, but let’s look at this...

Suppose you are out in the ocean drowning and screaming help. And suppose I jump in the water and swim to you to bring you to the shore. But when I get to you, you are so panicked that you are thrashing about and grabbing onto my head, which pushes me under the water. Now, not only can I not help you, but I can’t breathe because you’re drowning me too. You are not HELPABLE in this state of pure fear. 

In your frantic attempt to live, you can’t hear me telling you to calm down, relax, stop thrashing about, stop drowning me...instead lay still, and I will carry you safely to shore. If you do that, you become HELPABLE. 

The same is true when we’re dealing with a lot of anxiety, fear, sadness, grief, anger. We tend to thrash about trying to get somebody to help us, but FEAR is making us not helpable. What does it take to be helpable for healing from anxiety and sadness, or anything, for the matter? you ask. Ahhh! Thank you for asking!

The reason I AM successful at what I do is because I only work with people who are helpable, which entails three qualities: RESOURCEFULNESS, COACHABILITY, and DECISIVENESS. I only work with people whose #1 priority is their healing. Both of us giving 110%, it’s a powerful formula for changing lives and creating amazing lives of peace, love and joy. 

When a person is reSOURCEful, that means they recognize they are full of Source. Instead of saying, “I don’t have the resources to invest in my healing,” they say, “My bank account does not currently reflect the resources for the investment in my healing, however, because I’m resourceful, I will find a way to invest in myself.” I’m curious... Would you go to a car dealer and ask them to give you a car for free because you didn’t have the money to pay for it? Well, of course you wouldn’t! Instead, what do you do? You say, “I don’t have the money in my bank account right now, but I would like to make a loan because I need that car.” Why would you treat your healing any different? Isn’t your life and health more important than a car? Of course it is! You just didn’t realize this because of your programming based on all of that fear. But now you know. Now you’re one step closer to becoming helpable.

Let’s talk a little bit about coachability... What does that mean? That means that whatever the coach, the guide, the expert that you paid to guide you and show you how to heal and create a new life, says... you do it! You listen... without grumbling, complaining and resisting. You’re like a sponge soaking in all the healing energy. With that kind of attitude, you cannot fail. 

So if you hope to be helped, the final quality is decisiveness. And what exactly does that mean? It means you don’t hesitate when you make a decision. You choose life and health for yourself in each moment. You don’t let fear keep you down. 

My friends, if you have these three qualities, you are not only helpable, you WILL SUCCEED in healing yourself and creating a beautiful new life. So I’m wondering... do you need help with all that anxiety and sadness? But more importantly, are you helpable? If that’s you, send me a PM HERE to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

If you are struggling with ANXIETY and SADNESS from a loss in your life, join my FB Group where I offer tips on creating new lives of PEACE, LOVE and JOY. Click HERE to join.

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much! 

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Have You Ever Been in a Relationship Where You Felt So Alone and Unimportant?

All you want is someone to talk to and have meaningful conversation, but the other is so silent and disinterested in you...

It wasn’t always that way. In fact, it started out pretty steamy and exciting, and you talked about and shared everything. But somehow over time, you got into a routine...and you stopped being curious about each other because you been together so long you know the other quite well. Anyways, things just start to feel the same...same ole, same ole routine. So you get bored with each other. And maybe one of you or both of you just shuts down into your own little world. And you feel all alone, even though the other is sitting right over there watching TV...

Even if you manage to start a conversation, it doesn’t last long or go very far, and it certainly doesn’t scratch your itch for meaningful communication. In fact, just a compliment or expression of gratitude would make you feel better, but no...no words...crickets...So you start losing your confidence, and your self esteem starts going down. And you start feeling powerless over your life. Trapped in a situation that doesn’t feel like is going anywhere. It’s maddening!

Maybe you’ve tried everything you know to change that, but you’re still feeling lonely and unimportant. What you need is a strategy to learn how to create meaningful connection and to get your confidence back, and that’s exactly what I’m showing my clients how to do.

So if you’re tired of feeling lonely and unimportant, and you’re ready to learn how to create more engagement and feel more confident, then send me a PM to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

If you are struggling with ANXIETY and SADNESS from a loss in your life, join my FB Group where I offer tips on creating new lives of PEACE, LOVE and JOY. Click HERE to join.

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much!

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4 Simple Steps to Relieve Anxiety in 4 Minutes

Why Do You Always Think the Worst About Things and Is That Working For You?

OMG! Now that you say that, I can see it’s true! you say. And NO, it’s not working for me. It makes me anxious and afraid, you say. Relax, my friend. There’s nothing wrong with you. All that negative thinking that causes so much fear comes from fear, and it’s part of the human instinct to survive. 

Back in the day, when all the cave people were doing their thing populating the planet with the human species, it wasn’t easy. Every time they turned around, there was some creature chasing them, trying to eat them for lunch! So, being able to be aware of that possibility and being able to defend or run away from those dangers was very important, or else you and I wouldn’t be here. 

Obviously, we are no longer cave people, and we have populated the earth quite well. But the funny thing is is that the human brain has not evolved in the same way. Our brains treat all fears much in the same way it did when our life was in danger of being eaten. Our minds cannot distinguish if there’s an actual danger from a tiger chasing us or if there is a possibility of someone not wanting to be with us. Our thoughts just go round and round with all the possibilities of what could go wrong, trying to figure out a way out of the danger of experiencing someone rejecting us. 

So, what can we do about this? We can rewire our brains! It’s not something that happens overnight. In fact, we did not develop this way of thinking overnight, so we can’t expect it to go away instantly. Imagine a stream coming down the side of a mountain. The water creates a groove in the mountain because of the continuous flow. The brain is very similar to that. We develop pathways from our habitual thinking. If we hope to develop new neural pathways, we have to redirect the stream of thoughts and do that over and over. Mantras and reframes can help us do that. 

It is our AWARENESS and INTENTION that creates lasting change. So, we must first be aware of what we’re saying and thinking. Then we can use tools like mantras, and we can learn how to reframe any negative or fearful thoughts or words. Here are some examples:

“I don’t know what I’m doing, and I’m going to fail.” 

becomes

“I know everything I need to know in this moment, and I cannot fail.”

“Nobody really cares about me because I am not worthy of love.” becomes

“ I am worthy of love because I am love itself.”

“I have to pay $$$ for my therapy.”

becomes

“I GET TO INVEST $$$ in my healing.”

“I will never find anyone who will love me.”

becomes

“I AM attracting the most amazing person into my life who will love me exactly as I AM.”

You get the idea... The thing is, you have to believe what you’re saying. If you’re saying things that you don’t believe, it doesn’t work. So, it’s really important that you do the internal work of loving yourself and healing yourself as fear arises. That, my friends, is a whole ‘nother  process that must precede this one. 

If you’re done with all that negative thinking that’s keeping you anxious and afraid, and you’re ready to create something really beautiful for yourself, then send me a personal message HERE so we can book a call to see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients. 

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much! 

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4 Simple Steps to Relieve Anxiety in 4 Minutes