Have You Ever Been in a Relationship Where You Felt So Alone and Unimportant?

All you want is someone to talk to and have meaningful conversation, but the other is so silent and disinterested in you...

It wasn’t always that way. In fact, it started out pretty steamy and exciting, and you talked about and shared everything. But somehow over time, you got into a routine...and you stopped being curious about each other because you been together so long you know the other quite well. Anyways, things just start to feel the same...same ole, same ole routine. So you get bored with each other. And maybe one of you or both of you just shuts down into your own little world. And you feel all alone, even though the other is sitting right over there watching TV...

Even if you manage to start a conversation, it doesn’t last long or go very far, and it certainly doesn’t scratch your itch for meaningful communication. In fact, just a compliment or expression of gratitude would make you feel better, but no...no words...crickets...So you start losing your confidence, and your self esteem starts going down. And you start feeling powerless over your life. Trapped in a situation that doesn’t feel like is going anywhere. It’s maddening!

Maybe you’ve tried everything you know to change that, but you’re still feeling lonely and unimportant. What you need is a strategy to learn how to create meaningful connection and to get your confidence back, and that’s exactly what I’m showing my clients how to do.

So if you’re tired of feeling lonely and unimportant, and you’re ready to learn how to create more engagement and feel more confident, then send me a PM to book a call, so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients.

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You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much!

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4 Simple Steps to Relieve Anxiety in 4 Minutes

Why Do You Always Think the Worst About Things and Is That Working For You?

OMG! Now that you say that, I can see it’s true! you say. And NO, it’s not working for me. It makes me anxious and afraid, you say. Relax, my friend. There’s nothing wrong with you. All that negative thinking that causes so much fear comes from fear, and it’s part of the human instinct to survive. 

Back in the day, when all the cave people were doing their thing populating the planet with the human species, it wasn’t easy. Every time they turned around, there was some creature chasing them, trying to eat them for lunch! So, being able to be aware of that possibility and being able to defend or run away from those dangers was very important, or else you and I wouldn’t be here. 

Obviously, we are no longer cave people, and we have populated the earth quite well. But the funny thing is is that the human brain has not evolved in the same way. Our brains treat all fears much in the same way it did when our life was in danger of being eaten. Our minds cannot distinguish if there’s an actual danger from a tiger chasing us or if there is a possibility of someone not wanting to be with us. Our thoughts just go round and round with all the possibilities of what could go wrong, trying to figure out a way out of the danger of experiencing someone rejecting us. 

So, what can we do about this? We can rewire our brains! It’s not something that happens overnight. In fact, we did not develop this way of thinking overnight, so we can’t expect it to go away instantly. Imagine a stream coming down the side of a mountain. The water creates a groove in the mountain because of the continuous flow. The brain is very similar to that. We develop pathways from our habitual thinking. If we hope to develop new neural pathways, we have to redirect the stream of thoughts and do that over and over. Mantras and reframes can help us do that. 

It is our AWARENESS and INTENTION that creates lasting change. So, we must first be aware of what we’re saying and thinking. Then we can use tools like mantras, and we can learn how to reframe any negative or fearful thoughts or words. Here are some examples:

“I don’t know what I’m doing, and I’m going to fail.” 

becomes

“I know everything I need to know in this moment, and I cannot fail.”

“Nobody really cares about me because I am not worthy of love.” becomes

“ I am worthy of love because I am love itself.”

“I have to pay $$$ for my therapy.”

becomes

“I GET TO INVEST $$$ in my healing.”

“I will never find anyone who will love me.”

becomes

“I AM attracting the most amazing person into my life who will love me exactly as I AM.”

You get the idea... The thing is, you have to believe what you’re saying. If you’re saying things that you don’t believe, it doesn’t work. So, it’s really important that you do the internal work of loving yourself and healing yourself as fear arises. That, my friends, is a whole ‘nother  process that must precede this one. 

If you’re done with all that negative thinking that’s keeping you anxious and afraid, and you’re ready to create something really beautiful for yourself, then send me a personal message HERE so we can book a call to see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients. 

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much! 

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4 Simple Steps to Relieve Anxiety in 4 Minutes

Are You Spending All Your Time Trying to Get It Right?

People, stop wasting your time trying to figure things out, so that you don’t mess up. That’s a very unskillful and LIMITED way of being that comes from FEAR...Fear of being wrong, Fear of failure, Fear of being hurt, Fear of not being enough, Fear of not having enough. Any time you spend your energy trying to avoid, push away or fight what you don’t want, you limit yourself and often wind up getting what you don’t want!

There is a better way! Follow your joy. Follow what you DO WANT. Start learning how to tap into your Divine LIMITLESS nature that knows everything it needs to know in this moment by being HERE NOW. Stop trying to figure things out with your human logic and relying on your human abilities and resources. 

My Lord! I watch people having so much resistance to what’s HERE NOW, banging on the door that just slammed in their face, they can’t see the wonderful open door down the hall waiting to bring them to a place that serves them better at this time! And they don’t realize the very things and people they are fighting and resisting are actually parts of THEMSELVES that are asking to be healed! 

In fact, those very parts of ourselves that we automatically fight, ignore, push away, demonize even, are the very reason WE CAME here...to LOVE and HEAL. 

Thank you so much for all the wonderful modalities that people use to heal themselves, doctors, medicines, diets, crystals, massages, energy workers, blah, blah, blah, but if those are the primary source of healing, and you keep fighting and resisting the very parts of yourself that need healing, then all of those modalities are useless. Because you remain not healed. And a lot of times, people make it worse by trying all of those things, which tends to get them focused on trying to get it right, and avoiding and fighting what they think is wrong. 

Wake up, people! You are Divine LIMITLESS beings. Why are you fiddling around trying to live your life like a limited human being? And judging everything and everyone that’s not doing it like you think they should do it. It’s time to start being HERE NOW, where everything is, where all knowing is, where all power is, where LOVE, JOY and PEACE is. It’s time to start intuiting what’s appropriate in this moment for you and you alone. You’re not responsible to decide what’s appropriate for other people. And what’s appropriate in this moment can change in five minutes. If you’re relying on some plan or belief system or set of rules, you don’t have to be present to live your life. The truth is that most people live their entire lives from that very limited way of being, and never access their Divine limitless nature by being present. 

It’s time to take inspired action or non-action based on your intuition. Stop fighting and resisting and start loving and accepting what’s here now. The world needs you to show up in your full glory and power. So what are you waiting for? BE HERE NOW. BE LOVE. BE JOY. BE PEACE. And ACT from who  YOU ARE. 

Did You Know Fighting Anything Makes It Worse?

Let me guess... you want to fight me for saying that! Well maybe not fight me, but argue with me... It’s just our human nature to fight and resist. In fact, we actually needed that instinct to survive on the planet. What’s not apparent to us is that at this stage in our human evolution, not only do we not need fighting and resisting, we are making things worse by it because what we fight, we strengthen, and what we resist persists. 

Let’s take a closer look at this by looking at all the war, disease, crime, abuse, desolation and a bunch of other crap in our world. It makes us angry, sad, afraid just for starters. It hurts to see suffering and destruction. But here’s where we get stuck: we think that what’s happening out there in the world is over there, and we are powerless over it. 

What’s not obvious to us is that we are actually ONE with everything, and when we fight something or someone outside of ourselves, we are actually fighting OURSELVES. What do you mean? you say. I mean that ANGER, that SADNESS, that FEAR that you FEEL when you see suffering is PART of YOU! And when you fight and resist parts of yourself, you make the suffering worse because those parts of you are asking to be healed. 

In fact, when you heal those parts of yourself, your anger, your sadness, your fear, instead of pushing them away, distracting yourself or fighting to change the situation so that what’s happening outside of you changes, you heal the entire world because we are ONE. 

Well, how do I heal my anger, sadness, fear? you ask. You do the exact OPPOSITE of what have been doing, that is all that fighting and resisting. In order to heal yourself and our world because we are ONE, you LOVE and ACCEPT all of those parts of you that are suffering and asking to be healed! 

When you do that, you EXPAND more into your Divine limitless nature and position yourself to take inspired action or non-action that will truly shift and heal the suffering in our world. Otherwise life will be HARD, and you will bust your butt trying to make change that doesn’t happen because you are operating from your LIMITED human nature. This is how we change the world: by LOVING and ACCEPTING the hell out of what’s HERE NOW. 

How do we do that? you ask! That my friends requires a STRATEGY because it’s not something we can just logically understand and then change. It’s a process to SHIFT from fighting and resisting ourselves to loving and accepting ourselves, which is exactly what I’m showing my clients how to do! 

So if you’re over fighting yourself and watching our world go to hell in a hand basket, and you’re READY to create a new life and a new world, then BOOK a CALL HERE so that we can see if we’re a vibrational match to work together, and I can get you the same results I am getting my clients. (Don’t put it off because you know good and well that fear will keep you from reaching out, and you’ll just continue in your misery.)

You are IMPORTANT! You matter. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And I love you so much! 

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4 Simple Steps to Relieve Anxiety in 4 Minutes