An Invitation to the Light

Lately I have been exploring concepts in terms of light and darkness. My LIGHT, which is who I AM, has the honor and privilege to illuminate the darkness that shows up in my experience. As I encounter my darkness, AKA my Sadness, my Anxiety, my Fear, my Anger, I imagine them as little versions of me that have been locked away in the darkness.

As my darkness arises, I smile and invite her into the light. “Come on, girlfriend! This is the way to freedom. If you stay there in the darkness, you’ll find yourself go around and around and just exhaust yourself. It’s more fun here in the LIGHT. I invite you to walk into the light.”

It’s amazing to be this free! My darkness is transformed by my LIGHT. When I walk into a space, I transform everyone and everything by my LIGHT. This is who WE ARE. I invite you into the LIGHT.

Why is Healing So Hard?

Healing in and of itself is not difficult. What makes it hard is our RESISTANCE to it that arises from our subconscious LIMITING BELIEFS. Imagine a space where there is a bright light, which by the way is who we are. And within that space are also dark caverns that are hidden and closed off by giant rocks. Even though the light is so bright that it can dispel all darkness, since there are giant rocks covering the openings to the dark caverns, the light cannot enter there.

The only way the light can enter to illuminate the darkness is if the RESISTANCE, AKA rocks are removed. Once the resistance is removed, the light is so bright, it reaches in and lights up the darkness. This is the process of HEALING, bringing our LIGHT into the DARK places of our lives.

Our healing work becomes seamless when we can identify our resistance, AKA subconscious limiting beliefs, that having been forming since we were small children. Here are some common limiting beliefs:

I’m not a good person, therefore I don’t deserve to be loved.

I don’t know what I’m supposed to do, so I must be stupid.

If I don’t do everything possible to please others, they won’t want me, and I will be alone.

Even though others seem to be enjoying their lives and living purposefully, it’s not really possible for me.

I have never had much, and anyways having stuff is not very spiritual, so it’s okay that I can barely even pay for rent and food.

I’m not a lovable person.

I have had this pain for 20 years, and I will suffer from it for the rest of my life.

Great news, people! You can remove the rocks from the dark caverns and HEAL YOURSELF! Yes, it’s a process, but it doesn’t have to be hard. We start right HERE NOW. And we keep showing up in this moment, tending to ourselves.

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Please remember: You are IMPORTANT. There’s only one of YOU, and the world is grateful you exist. I love you so much!

It’s So Hard To Watch People Struggle

I have been observing myself again. And I notice my propensity to feel sadness or disappointment as certain people go through their struggles. Part of me wishes I could move them along and get them to a place where they are all better. Then I realize that part of me is the part of me that is really only concerned with how I feel, and I don't want to have to feel what the other feels.

It's hard for me to watch other people struggle. It reminds me of when my kids were learning how to tie their shoes, and after what seemed like an eternity of them trying, I just wanted to grab the shoelaces and do it for them. That would put me out of my misery, and I wouldn't have to watch them struggle anymore. Then I realize their struggle is why they are here. It is their path of evolution. And when I try to "help" by doing it for them or hurry them along so they can be done with that lesson and be happy, I shortcut their growth. (This is the plight of the co-dependent and enabler.)

So as I step back and observe myself with my selfish agenda to feel better and not have to see others struggle, I also go back to the realization of why we are here: to evolve and grow. Seeing this brings me back to the wisdom of allowing myself and others to be who they are without trying to force solutions. It's like baking a cake. It's important not to take it out of the oven until it's done.

Today I choose to support those people in my life who are struggling by sending lots of love and grace and peace. And I am grateful for these lessons we are learning together as we grow and return to Source from whence we came.

Tired of Feeling Guilty and Obligated?

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I feel GUILTY because so and so expects ... from me, and I can’t or don’t want to do that”? Or how about, “I am doing this because I feel OBLIGATED to do it”?

Let’s take a moment to unravel this. Why do we feel obligated to do anything? Is it because we said we would do it, because at the time we may have been willing to do it, and we don’t want the other to be upset with us if we don’t? Is it because we feel it’s important to fulfill others expectations of us. What happens if we don’t fulfill those expectations? Do we feel guilty and like we’re a horrible person? Well yes, that’s it.

So it comes around again to guilt and expectations. We don’t want to feel guilty. And we don’t want to feel like a horrible person. So we do what’s expected of us so that we won’t feel guilty and like a horrible person, or we don’t do what’s expected of us and feel guilty and like a horrible person!

Isn’t that something! We are playing all these tricks to avoid feeling guilty and unworthy, but we can’t get around it. Maybe we add RESENTMENT to our feelings of guilt and unworthiness because we don’t like it that other people expect things from us. And we don’t like it when other people rule our lives by their expectations. We feel trapped and bound by others’ needs and wants.

What if instead of avoiding guilt, unworthiness and resentment, we turned around and offered it LOVE and ACCEPTANCE? What if we as the LIGHT stopped running away from guilt, unworthiness and resentment and decided to shine our Light into the Darkness of these parts of us that are arising simply because they are asking to be healed?

Well, I will tell you what will happen: first, we will heal the parts of us that feel guilty, unworthy and resentful. Then because we’ve taken back our power, we will begin to make decisions based on what serves us best in this moment, instead of trying to fulfill other people’s expectations for our lives. Then as we grow in our ability to listen to what’s true for us, we come out of this codependent behavior of constantly trying to please other people so we won’t feel guilty or unworthy. And we feel completely FREE! Yay!

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