Fear Is Influenced By Me!

I AM not influenced by fear. Fear is INFLUENCED BY ME! 

 What?! Darn right. I know who I AM. I no longer walk around afraid someone’s gonna rob me, cheat me, disappointment me, abuse me, rape me, break my heart. No one can take anything from me because I AM all that IS connected as ONE with all of you! 

When I walk into a room, I don’t take on everybody’s fears. Fear completely dissolves in the light of my presence as LOVE itself. Therefore when I walk into a room I TRANSFORM everyone in that room with LOVE. This is exactly what’s POSSIBLE FOR YOU TOO!

You Are Perfect

If you want to see perfection, look in the mirror. Yes, you are Source, All That Is, clothed in skin having a human experience. You can’t be any better than perfection.

Yet, we spend an exorbitant amount of energy trying to better ourselves by getting an education, earning a better income, improving our appearance, developing more social skills and on and on. There’s nothing wrong with that approach. But we do ourselves a favor by engaging in these activities from the perspective as PERFECTION working out the experience of being human.

From this viewpoint, instead of constantly struggling, fighting, contriving, reaching for something we think we don’t have or are not, we can FLOW seamlessly into a natural way of being that is simply embodying the perfection that we already are.

How to Stop Fighting and Start Loving

We live in a world of conflict: wars, politics, competition, divorce, racism, territorial disputes, global destruction, fueled by power, anger, greed, jealousy, terror, rage, apathy. We think the conflict is with the other who is opposed to us. Yet, what is not apparent is that the real conflict is WITHIN us. Therefore fighting each other is completely ineffective, and in fact STRENGTHENS and PERPETUATES our conflict and suffering. 

How do we create new realities, so we don’t continue this viscous cycle? We can choose to stop REACTING out of FEAR and RESISTANCE and start RESPONDING from LOVE and ACCEPTANCE. 

Here’s and simple step by step approach:

1. BREATHE:

When you encounter conflict, take a few seconds to BREATHE several long breaths. 

2. FEEL:

As you are breathing, become AWARE of what emotion you are FEELING, while resisting the urge to get lost in the story. For example, instead of saying “That SOB just cut me off in traffic!” you can say, “I feel ANGRY right now.” Or instead of saying “So and so won’t communicate with me,”  you can say, “I feel SAD right now. “

3. HUG:

Then take a moment to give that part of you that feels angry, sad, disappointed, anxious, jealous, unworthy, a big HUG by crossing your arms across your chest. 

When that part of you feels ACKNOWLEDGED, SAFE and LOVED, you create an entirely new space with which to create a different outcome for yourself and the other. 

4. RESPOND:

Now you have empowered yourself to take inspired action or non-action by RESPONDING from a place of LOVE and ACCEPTANCE. 

That may mean that you tell someone, “No, thank you” instead of “Hell NO!” Or it may mean you do nothing and go about your day with a big smile on your face because you have loved a part of yourself that really needed it. Or it may mean that you come up with an idea that is mutually beneficial for both of you that you may not have considered when you were in a state of conflict. 

Whatever the case, you will have FREED yourself from fighting with the other and given to yourself the LOVE that it was needing at this time. That’s how to stop fighting and start loving, and life is a whole lot more fun that way. 

Your External Reality is a Reflection of Your Internal Reality

Everything in our external reality is a reflection of our internal reality. 

 When I stop attributing my reality to the result of happenstance external factors and begin using my reality as AWARENESS of what IN ME wants my love and attention, I take back my power, transition out of victimhood and position myself to create a beautiful new reality. 

 Let me break it down: We are programmed to think that life randomly happens to us. And sometimes it just sucks to be us. Poor me. Look at all this crap I have to deal with. What’s not apparent to us is that LIFE is NOT RANDOM. In fact, we CREATE our REALITY! 

 What?! Why in the world would we do such an terrible thing like that? What are we, masochists? Actually, no. We have very specific and important reasons why we create realities that cause us suffering. What our soul is doing is allowing us to experience whatever we came here to heal. And we must experience it first before we can heal it. Generally speaking, we often loop around the same block of suffering like we are on a giant gerbil wheel. 

 Sooner or later, perhaps we get tired of the gerbil wheel of suffering, and we are ready to try something different. When this happens, we stop blaming what’s happening outside of us for our unhappiness and begin tending to the hurt parts of ourselves that have suffered so long and are asking to be healed and harmonized back into the LOVE that we are. 

 When we use everything in our external reality to help us get in touch with what in us wants our love and attention, we free ourselves to open to our LIMITLESS nature and to create exciting and beautiful new lives.